Do you see yourself reflected in the media? In what ways?

As we know, perception is everything; especially in the world of social media. In terms of perception, we all have an ideal self. We all wish to maximize our careers, our profession, and aspire to be like those who we find most successful. As the use of social media continues to evolve; the concept of presenting our ideal selves versus our real selves has become more and more prevalent on social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google+, Pinterest, and even LinkedIn.

From a societal standpoint, many of us are driven by competition, achievement, and status; hence, the creation and portrayal of our ideal selves.

The question we have to ask ourselves is: Are we really presenting who we are or are we presenting a hyper-idealistic version of ourselves? It has been argued that the social media effect creates a false sense of self and self-esteem through the use of likes, fans, comments, posts, etc. For many social media users, it is an esteem booster, which explains why so many people spend so much time on social media. It provides many individuals with a false sense of self and an inflated sense of who they really are.

In considering these points, here are three important factors I like to consider while social networking & where I stand in terms of reality:

1.)Stop comparing yourself to others. 
When you compare yourself to others, you are comparing yourself to the perception of what you think the person is. In reality, many people are presenting only their ideal selves online. Therefore, you are comparing yourself to an ideal figure, not a true representation.

2.) Authenticity is Key. 
Stay true to your real self. Instead of creating an inflated, unrealistic version of yourself; examine who you are and your best attributes. Determine what makes you unique and focus your attention on enhancing yourself. Ask yourself this question, “Would you rather 1,000 carbon copies of replicas or one authentic version of yourself?” People like individuals who are relatable, yet, real. Do not be afraid to show who you really are.

3.) Align your “Real” self with your “Ideal” self. 
If you are portraying yourself as an ideal figure or with an ideal career, why not work towards those goals to achieve your ideal status? As we know, everything in life worth doing takes time, effort, energy, and persistence.

As a final point, if you’re consistent and transparent in your online and offline persona, you have nothing to fear from exposure. Submitted by Dr. Amit Patel



Media really needs to broaden its frame of reference to include me. I have sensed that i am not all that important in my individual self for my dear media...in the age of multiple newspapers and 24hours news channels one finds maddening analyses of things and events which are sometimes not all that important. My only hope used to be social media but that space is also gradually shrinking. there is something alarming which comes to chase you when you speak your mind. Perhaps our media too gets carried away by the barriers of caste class gender race and ethnicity and does not project the image from a comprehensive lenses. it is often very disappointing but the challenge is to resist that and retain my own individuality and not be a party to the skewed perceptions.  Submitted by Parmod Kumar